If my rants upset you, click away now. They’re better than therapy and chalked full of passion and a little snark. You have been warned.
When I was young, I really thought I was an expert on everything I had ever experienced. Not only that, I thought no one else in the entire history of mankind could have experienced what I did. To an extent, that 2nd one was true. I am Diane and no one in all of history will see everything quite the way I do. I remember not understanding why older people would act upset when I tried to add my vast amounts of knowledge to their inventories. After all, I was sharing, right and people need to know how right I am, right?It made me mad and made me feel like they thought they were better than I was.
Oh, I was such a fool.
What I didn’t see then and see so clearly now is that I was insulting them. Here you have a 15 year old child trying to school a 60 year old woman on life. How rude was that? Children do not know what they are doing when they are guilty of that kind of thing. They have yet to learn how ignorant they really are or how little of life they know. And because adults were children at one time, they usually give allowances for such.
But what happens when you grow up, dedicate your life to one task and someone that is an adult also comes in and tries to impose their expertise on the subject? What if that person had zero, zilch, nadda experience in your field of expertise but insisted simply because they are human also they too know what they are talking about? I tell you, it is not like a slap, it is a doubled-fist to the jaw, with sucker-punch and a kick in the gut. And you can’t help but feel insulted, and just a little angry.
You try to maintain civility. Try to explain to the person that while they may have some idea of the subject, they can’t truly understand until the time they dedicate their life to it as well. This causes the other person to act like the know-it-all teen and mouth off that you are being unreasonable and somehow prejudice in your words.
GRRRR….This pisses me off.
What I want to say….You self-righteous, bitter, brat…get your own specialty. Stop trying to Bogart mine. There is plenty of room for you to do the same but I will not have any person take the glory from all those that have put in the time.
I know that reaction isn’t nice, but I am being honest. The instance that got me going is parenting. I have dedicated the last 20 years of my life to being a parent to my five children. Through that time, I have had to deal with several “experts” that have never been a parent (by blood or adoption) and they always look down their noses in that way that makes you want to jump up and sock them in the nose. Their “justified” defensiveness and claim that they know what being a parent is really grates me, but I usually keep my cool.
I want to ask how many times they have walked the floor for 6 hours straight with puke crusted to their shirt and rats nesting their hair. How many ear aches have they tried to soothe with a hair-dryer because your mother’s sister’s mother-in-law said it worked for her Bobby? How many band aides applied, haircuts cut, snotty noses wiped…the list goes on.
What I do tell them is that they don’t and then I get the 3rd degree about being rude and how I’ve offended them.. Oh? I’m rude, am I? I am offended that you have the audacity to proclaim you are offended. Think that through for a few minutes and then bite me.